Picture is from teen years
I grew up as a nerd. I'm not going to front like those who say they used to be nerds just because they liked to read every now and then. I mean, I was the "erasers thrown at me, physical bullying, verbal assaults, pranks played on," kinda nerd. What's more? Most of my bullies were guys. And no, I assure you it was not the "I-like-you-but-I-don't-know-how-to-show-it-so-I'll-be-mean-to-you" type of teasing. I figured that after a guy threw an eraser so hard at my face I almost fell off my chair. He then proceeded at talking to the hot girl in the class.
I've experienced things I was afraid to share with my other nerdy friends in fear that even they would think I was a loser.
Needless to say, I know what it's like to be that girl who is not good enough for that guy every girl wants. That girl that others others don't even notice enough to think anything of... Except a bullying target. But you know what? It's not even a bad thing.
Some women grow up not knowing what it's like to not get a man they want that when they encounter someone who doesn't seem to want them or fails to appreciate them for who they are inside, their vulnerability kicks in and their whole purpose of existence is to obtain the approval or love of that person.
I grew up as a nerd, I had to build my confidence from within and not from looks... As sad as it sounds, I'm used to not getting what I want. It taught me to re-question what it is I really want.